I talk about defining your dream quite a lot on Untrapped Life. There is a reason for this – it is the single most important thing you can do on your path to creating your dream. Define your dream and you can move on to the more productive things like planning and researching.
Vague dreams get vague results
Too many people are vague when they list their ambitions for life. They cite that they want to move to the countryside, or they want to be their own boss. Possibly they want to travel, or to write, or to paint. These goals and ambitions are great and it’s great that people are dreaming so hard, but they are unlikely to move forward with their dreams if that is all they can say about what they want to do.
If you carry on being vague it’s like waiting for a lottery win. Yes there is a chance that your dream might still happen, but it’s putting the responsibility for it in someone else’s hands. Wouldn’t you rather be sure that it would happen?
One of the most common dreams I hear about, and also one that I resonate with myself, is wanting to travel the world. To travel is to be able to take off and do a proper adventure, to live a carefree life going where the wind blows you, to relax on exotic beaches. Sound good?
Take a look at some of these ways to make it happen soon!
1. Stop being so vague!
Stop just saying ” I want to travel the world ” and turn it into something more specific. What would constitute a win for this goal? Going to Bognor for the weekend? No? How about a 12 month trip exploring central and south america? How about living for 6 months in a different culture?
If you don’t have a good picture about what is a win, you’ll always just be wanting to travel, never quite getting there. After all, there is so much of the world that there will always be more to discover.
Picture the scene. You’ve just read the most inspiring book, it’s opened your eyes to the fact that your passion that’s been bubbling away for years is the one you should focus on. You’re excited. You talk, you have a glass of wine, you smile. You talk some more, have more wine and plan. You go to bed feeling giddy, and not just because of the wine!
The cold light of day comes in the morning and you start to have a funny feeling in your tummy. It’s not a good feeling either. You’d just spent the last evening chatting and being excited about something, you’d laid your dreams on the table. You’d told people what you were going to do. But now? Well, now you’re not so sure.
I wanted to write today about my own goals and my own dreams. I want to show that I am still a work in progress too. We all are.
I am setting this site up because I completely believe that striving to reach your goals leads to more happier people. I want to help people feel more fulfilled in their lives. I also know that getting off the starting line is the hardest part and that is where I am focussing my efforts, on getting people started.
It might look from the outside, probably less so if you actually know me in real life, that I’ll tell you how to do it because I have it all sorted and I don’t have anything to learn myself. This is so very not true.
I watched a really touching you tube lecture not that long ago called ‘Achieving your Childhood Dreams’ by Randy Pausch. It’s a long lecture, but really worth listening to for all sorts of reasons, although I’m sorry if you haven’t got a dry eye by the end of it!
One of the many great moments in the lecture is that he talks about brick walls getting in the way of your dreams. This really spoke to me, when I looked back on some of my achievements in the past, and also looked to the future dreams I still had. I could remember some of the moments in the past when I felt like the universe was testing me, when it put a brick wall in front of me.